How does Melodee Roo & The Wantoks Too! Letters For Grieving Children Like You work?

Once you have completed your purchase, you will receive confirmation with a digital download file with your personalized passwords needed to open each letter. Download and save this for your reference. Any time that you want to open a letter, go to Click on the Member Access to Letters/Songs menu option and input the password for whichever letter you want to read. Then click on the link/box and the letter will open on your desktop, laptop, tablet or smart phone. Phones are not the preferred way to read the letters as the screens may be too small. (The website navigation/menu options might be designated by the 3-line icon on the top right of each page of your device). 

Included is the password to download the PDF version of each letter should you want a hard copy.

What does Wantok mean?

Melodee Roo & The Wantoks are fictional characters living in the rainforest in Papua, New Guinea. 

Wantok, in the Papua New Guinea Pidgin language, means “one talk”. Mary MacDonald defines the wantok system as, “the bond of people, speaking the same language, belonging to one tribe, and sharing common values”.11    Bartle defines the wantok system as the “Melanesian insurance and social security system that one invests in and profits, in a time of need”.12    In other words, the system becomes an insurance policy, and a security system, creating open dialogue, obligating the other for return favours when the need arises. Therefore, wantoks stick together, sharing mutual respect, trust, and desires for meaningful relationships, and a sense of belonging. Mary MacDonald, “Melanesian Communities: Past and Present”, in Point 5 (1984), p. 220.

Families who are navigating the ups and downs of grief, need the support, respect and trust from others who understand what they are going through. Melodee Roo & The Wantoks Too! provide that for children and their families in their time of need. 

What Does Bamahoota mean?

Bamahoota is a greeting that means both hello and goodbye.

What are the recommended ages for MR&TWT! Letters For Grieving Children?

The letters are recommended for children ages 6-12. However, this is a product for the entire family. As one 19-year-old commented, "It is so beautiful, well written, relatable and comforting. I loved it and others are going to love this." The younger child(6-7) will need help from an adult family member to read the letters to them. Older children,(8-12)should have no problem reading them on their own.

Are there stages of grief my child should be going through?

There is no clear timeline for the feelings, thoughts or behaviors that children experience as they move through the grieving process. The sequence of letters does not indicate any grief progression. They simply provide a guideline of possibilities that your child may experience over the course of one year, or many years. All letters are a springboard for awareness and discussion and an attempt to bring a sense of normalcy to the grieving process.

Is it important to read only one letter per month and in sequence?

It takes time for all of the sensations, thoughts and feelings to surface following the death of a loved one. The roller coaster of emotions and thoughts need to be identified, expressed and tended to as they occur. The Roo-Letters follow what might be common experiences a child and their family will go through. You know your child best. It is up to you what works for your family and your circumstances. For example, in Roo-Letter six, anger is addressed. In your family, anger may surface in month four so you may want to read it then. However, these letters can be read over and over if needed at any time.

The print on my computer seems small. What can I do?   

Each letter has a zoom feature, usually indicated by a magnifying glass. Click on it to enlarge the print. Click on your mouse to return to the smaller size, or click the zoom icon again.

The pages sometimes turn automatically. How do I stop that from happening?

Click the icon that looks like a stop watch.

I love opening the links to the videos, but sometimes I don't know how to navigate back to the letter. Can you tell me what to do?

Click on the back button of your computer and it will take you back to the letter you were reading.

Should I bring my child for counseling?

While written by a psychotherapist, MR&TW! Letters For Grieving Children Like You is not a substitute for counseling. Children and their family can go through the grieving process without the need for professional help. However, support is always recommended to soften the wall of isolation a family experiences. Grief camps, community support groups and counseling can all provide support. Unresolved grief reactions can lead to psychosomatic complaints, nightmares or sleep disturbance, school performance or behavioral issues, anxiety or depression, and at the extreme, substance abuse, or self-harming behavior. Professional help would then be recommended. When you address your child's grief with MR&TWT Letters For Grieving Children Like You, it may reduce the liklihood that more serious symptoms will develop.

What is your return policy?

I am glad to help you to make a clear choice about your purchase. The Free Trial gives you the opportunity to read the first Roo-Letter which includes two of David Friedman's songs, the beginning story of Melodee Roo and Apsy the Cassowary's losses and to engage in the Roo-Tivities. 

This is not a monthly subscription. It is a one-time purchase and you will have access to the entire series to work through at your own pace. If, after your purchase, you decide for any reason that Melodee Roo & The Wantoks Too! Letters for Grieving Children Like You is not for you, simply send me an email within 7 days of purchase telling me why you want a refund, and I will gladly refund you your purchase price.  

Can I purchase the songs separately from the subscription?

Yes. All the songs are comforting for a sad heart. Your purchase price of $10.00 includes 7 mp3's. There are no returns once purchased. Proceeds from the purchase goes towards the Kids Kindness Fund to help a needy family who cannot afford to purchase the subscription.

How does a needy family qualify for a free subscription?

For every 10 purchases of Melodee Roo & The Wantoks Too! Letters For Grieving Children Like You, we will give away one free to a deserving family who is unable to afford to buy it. Please make your purchase and spread the word. Families who would like to enter the drawing for a free subscription to the 12 Roo-letters can write a paragraph about why they think their child should receive the free subscription at Or, simply fill out and submit this form.

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